Hey Girl,
What have you been up too? I know It’s been about two years since my last post.. here’s a quick update of where I stand after “Love Is In The Hair”
- Graduated Tuskegee
- Started my career at Accenture
- Had a babyyyyy boyy
- Been in a relationship going on three years now
- Lost close friends
- Trying to find myself and what I really want to do. Basically trying to lay the foundations of my life
As I’m on this journey, I am truly learning the importance of “LETTING GO OF DEAD WEIGHT!” 🗣: Is there anybody else going through this too? I believe if I don’t let go of what’s dead, I may never grow into what God has for me. So, I truly have been doing some inner healing around this aspect.
I know other women can relate to this, so I wanted to share some thoughts, insights, and motivation for us all to use to work on letting go of dead weight around us
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Let’s take a moment and reflect on the end of 2023. I’m sure we were all making resolutions on who we were leaving behind, but some of you bought them SAMEEEE PEOPLEEE in 2024! (I’m talking about myself too)!! “Baggggg ladyyyyy you gone hurt yourself, dragging all them bags like thatttt. I guess nobody ever told you all you must hold onto, is you….” When we are gone start listening to our good sis Erykah Badu😩😩?
The literal definition of dead weight is heavy or an oppressive burden. It’s 2024 we can not afford to keep dragging around people or things that’s oppressing us.. I feel like we give people way too much space in our mind, we gotta learn to literally move around!!!
The hard part of this is acceptance:( No one can save you, BUT YOU!!! I had plenty of people in my ear telling me “Desiree, you can do so much better.” “That’s not a friend.. friends don’t do that desiree” But, if I haven’t accepted it in my mind, I truly am in denial.
Have yall ever noticed somebody being in a toxic situation, and as soon as she removes that toxic situation from her life, she begins receiving so many blessings? I mean a new car, job promotion, a man that actually treats her right. (example: Ciara).
When we carry around things that don’t even belong to us, it can cause people and opportunities to move away from us. God can not bless you in a messy situation, he gotta make sure your focus and consciousness is clear !!
(We really do have to make a conscious choice on if we are ready to live our life to the fullest. The only way to really get there is to cut ties with everything toxic, this goes for family too. )
If you are the type of person who has to keep changing for someone to like you, always making the first effort to converse, always showing up for them but they are never there for you, the list goes on… then you really have to take a step back. ‼️Questions to think about:
- Are your friends there to celebrate you for a new job, engagement?
- Are they praying for you and encouraging you?
- Are they there for the good and bad times?
- Always questioning your mistakes, but never taking accountability for their own?
- You’re always feeling drained, annoyed, or scared to express your emotions?
These are all questions to consider if this person is dead weight. A lot of times we hold on to things because of history, but if you find yourself questioning this person’s motives… you may need to move AROUND!
I am in a season where God is teaching me to always seek Him first! I am better than I was a few years ago and continue to strive hard to do so. It takes an intentional mind to be disciplined enough to spend time with Him, not only informing Him how hurt you are but also asking Him to avail Himself to do His Will.
We have to own and embrace that we have every right to be happy! We are totally in charge of what that happiness looks like. None of this happens overnight. But equip yourself in knowing your self worth and that we are better than the situations we are in.
Please comment with your personal insights and a testimony to help others who read.
Thank you all so much